The Busy Busty “BBW” Girl

Willpower – Not defending what I’m writing about… *lol* – I did something similar for the “nice guy,” so here’s the similar scenario on the girl side.  There’s so much less defense I can give this personality though because even though they scream reject me … the nice guy you can have and he’ll give you everything.  Chances are this girl will push you until you either accept her or reject her, and if you do accept her there’s still a high probability of her rejecting you for not reaching her standards.

So I tend to see these girls as those who are more interested in an actual relationship, and you could say that they “need” this type of relationship to be themselves.  However chances are good that they are not in a relationship, and this only furthers their personality.  If they were actually in a relationship their personality would be different.  They would no longer have the dreary eyes, the constant first dates, and would not have the constant up and downs that they are provided by the constant dates that they seek.

I will first break down the title:

*Busy – They have a combined work/school load of at least 60hrs/week which keeps them busy and fullfilled, they have friends, and everything except a boyfriend.  They are looking to fill that hole that they perceive.

*Busty/BBW – This is more directed to how they see themselves.  The four generalizations are slim (don’t eat much), athletic (same as slim but they have more energy/muscle appearance), average, and “BBW.”  To me BBW indicates that their weight is actually damaging their system, and anything less than that is normal/average.  I wouldn’t really call these girls BBW, but they call themselves this indicating that they consider themselves as ugly, and are waiting to be turned down.

Lower confidence, and with the constant workload they don’t have the time to sit down and prepare themselves to take the jump, don’t have the energy to dip into their willpower which they’re already using on food/work…

If the guy actually likes them then they would be ok with my personality, they would be ok with me missing the date, they would stick around regardless.

The guy should take the initiative so if he doesn’t then he’s not interested.  If the guy doesn’t text first then he’s a player.

Don’t want to settle so the guy needs to be strong, funny, caring, personal, well-settled in life and have figured everything out. He needs to have flaws so that he’s not better than her, but can’t have any flaws that would be detrimental.  He needs to know what to say and when to say it.

She wants to find the right guy by chance, and doesn’t want to feel like she’s limiting her options by creating a list.  It just needs to work and feel right.  Willing to take the time to wait for the right guy, but it really hurts to be single so she has to keep looking.

I realize that my level of analysis is guaranteed detrimental, but you have to seriously consider an important detail:

*When you go to a job interview it is almost mandatory to wear a tux/formal wear even if the job will not require it.  Even if you get the job anyway the first impression will have an impact on what the boss will think of you because it is the FIRST impression.  Any other impression will have to re-write the first one which is unneccessary extra effort.

Why show the worst side of you to begin with?  And if you’re so patient then why don’t you give each guy more of a chance?

Just keep looking at guys, talking to them, and searching for a flaw to reject them while trying tossing them reasons that anyone with self-worth would immediately drop you over.  Wash, Rinse, Repeat.

** If the guy already knows the girl, and is up to the girl’s standards of personality and lust; and if the guy is interested in a more intense long term relationship: then the relationship will be long and amazing.  Pursue-worthy

** If the dating is online-based the relationship is not likely to work – one week before she gets too self-conscious over text and someone says something that causes a loss of interested. Chances are she’s not confident (and available) enough to meet up in person within a week.  Anyone who sticks around after a week is likely too “desperate” to fit her standards.

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