Why I Take “Free Food” As An Insult

I was at the dinner table with my family.  The dishes kept coming out to the table, and I held back on the amount that I ate because I did not want to eat it all.  That’d be considered rude, and make it so that there was not enough food for anyone else.

After the last dish was finished, everyone got up from the table and it was claimed, by no one in particular, that the perfect amount of food had been made.  I didn’t particularly care, but as you could read by how this story is going that I was still hungry.  I didn’t care because I have little patience for not being served enough food, and I got my keys to go out.

“Where are you going?” My Mother asked.  I told her I was going out to get a pizza.  This made her angry, and since it was a dream we started tossing containers of spices across the room.  They smashed and glass exploded everywhere. While I lived with my parents I had a history of hoarding food in my room.

I went to get my cats and leave.  My visit was over.

Two things to note:

*The same goes for a visit to my grandparents, or a “free meal” given by employers.  If I can’t eat my fill I would rather not be imposed by your food.  I feel that leaving for more food would be an insult to you, and I take it as an insult that you are wasting my time.

*I eat more than twice what the average person does in a sitting, and I eat the same in a sitting regardless of whether I eat a meal once every three days, or three times a day.  When I have been working out all bets are off.

I take my personal bias and do not make a big deal about it when food is offered.  They are trying to be nice, and I accept their efforts.  Not to mention culturally “free food” is highly accepted with gratitude, with me being the exception.  Dreams such as this are a constant reminder to be wary of visiting my parents.

Growing Up Without Parents

Why just disregard the parent /child system?  Surely it is not broken in iteslf, and family is a bond that can’t compare to anything else.

*Parenting is a joy in itself.  Why refute a person’s right to have a child of their own?

If you don’t grow up being taught tht your life isn’t fullfillned until you reproduce then chances are you won’t feel the need to.  For those who need to nurture something that is theirs: Get a pet.  The people who have the stronger urges, and feel the need to have children should be the ones who work with them.  In this situation they can chose to take on the responsibility that can handle, and it will be considered more of a proffession than something that keeps them from attaining their proffession.

*The love and joy of a parent cannot be replaced.  Surely  the system that replaces it would be cold, and would not have the same amount of love and nurturing.

Parenting comes at the cost of the child.  The child is expected to live with inexperienced people during their most impretionable years.  And if the parent is experienced then they will likely have to fight to attain affection.  If they don’t have the fighting personality then they will likely not have open communication and trust with their parents.=The soluation is not communal children, but rather a more advanced school system that is built to teach them what they need to know while in an environment that teaches them how to interact in the society.

~The main problem that we face as a culture is that children in similar situations will either feel rejected as if their parents don’t want them, and that they don’t belong.  They aren’t the same as other kids because other kids have parents.  If all kids are raised the same then it’s not that they don’t know better – but that they aren’t raised believing that the other kids have something that they should want more than anything else.

Motion, Time, and the Bar of Mis-Balance

Time is what I regard as the greatest healer of all things.  Time will heal both physical and emotional wounds, and if used right can help you achieve your goals.  However, that is only if time is used in the right way.

Newton’s First Law of Motion states that things in motion will stay in motion.  But how does this apply to time?  Well our world doesn’t like change, and has forces that accelerate actions rather than slowing them down.  Nature does balance, but it only balances when it already has a policy in plan that catches hold and pushes the force back into place.  If nature doesn’t have a policy in place to fix your problem then you should not expect your problem to go away with time.  You have to grab hold of the problem and push it back into the desired direction.

*The body has different types of fat cells, and there are different ways to burn fat.  White fat cells, Brown fat cells, appetite, metabolism.  As you gain more weight your body gets used to gaining weight, and burning off that weight becomes harder.  The farther you have spiraled the harder it will be to push the balance back to the other direction.

*Depression / SH / Addiction :  Once you’ve hit rock bottom, then you have nothing to lose.  Whenever anything bad happens you will have feelings and thoughts in your head that someone else would not have to endure.  Unlike them you don’t have to be curious if it works, how it works, if it’s safe enough, how to do it.  It’s as if you weren’t fixed well in the first place.

Don’t despair.  If all of these works in bad ways why wouldn’t they also work in good ways as well?

*The more money you have the easier it is to make money.  Investing, security, ect.  If you can buy a house you are investing in real estate rather than paying someone else rent.  If you can pay off your car & student loans you don’t pay interest.

*Being happy releases hormones that keep stress and anxiety at bay.  You will get sick less often, and you will have to deal with less problems.

*The one bad thing that could ruin your day becomes simply a slight obsticle.  you can just deal with it, and then move on with your day.

*You will be more fun to be around.  People prefer being around happy people, and they prefer to help out happy people.  People prefer to be with happier people.

Keep this in mind when you go about your day.  Your choice is yours to make, and I am not one to judge you for how you live your life.  I would just like you to be aware that with every action you make you are making a choice concerning which direction this bar of “mis-balance” is headed in.