Take a look at Peeta from The Hunger Games. Has he become the norm of what boys have to face nowadays?
Boys are taught to watch from afar, and have a rescue instinct that makes it so that they cannot make a move unless the girl needs help, needs to be rescued. But they dote on a specific version of a girl – one who is a fighter, one who doesn’t want to be rescued.
Girls have been treated as second class citizens for hundreds, thousands, if not millions or billions of years. But if they are not prepared for their new generation of freedom, they have the option to surrender to a man of their choice. They can even become a “Sugar Baby,” and get paid “for their hotness.”
The problem is not the impossibility of going back to the older ways. It is possible for a male to walk up to a female and ask her to give herself to him. The confidence, the masculinity of it would make him attractive.
The issue is that the boy has a strong mother, one who feminizes her son. She is the strong woman and demands that her son follow exactly what she says, and the father goes along because she is intimidating. The son sees a strong woman who takes charge, and pushes the boys in line.
So the boy cannot take demand masculinity due to his inability to ensue insubordination, but he can only find desire for a girl who is powerful, in charge, and above him. She would not be his equal, she would own him.
There are girls who are willing to be the girl for this guy, but not the girl that he dotes on.