Sometimes it really matters that you get what you want.  But why does it matter?  I split it into a couple different reasons, and 100% in order to make me feel better about myself.

  • Because it’s time dependent.  If it goes badly, the event cannot be easily replaced.  It is centered on a physical time and place, and there’s no repeats, no second chances.
  • Because you’re tired of not getting what you want, and just want it to go your way just this once…
    • I’m torn on this one.

You can be there for someone when they don’t ask, when they don’t need it.  You can do something in a way for someone when they don’t need to it to go their way, and it won’t be appreciated because they would have been able to do it them self.  If they can’t do everything them-self, then they need you to be there for things they can’t do themselves, not for things that they can.

When you and the person you are with, especially your partner, both want the other to join in who is supposed to give in and surrender?  Who makes the sacrifice?

I invited you to be part of my life, and you needed me to sacrifice that so that you could feel as though you are important to me.

That shrug of yours.  As if you are saying, “I know that I just hurt you, but that’s your fault.  You made this happen.”

Yes, I am the keeper of your emotions, I control how you feel.


“I Would Do Anything For Her” – The Girl

The Girl, because the girl is second class to the guy, expected to accept the afterthought as making her an equal.

The girl who is handed the world, and gets the privilege of the equality that the men are willing to allow.  Regardless of the new found privilege she is allotted, she is treated as though she is being handed whatever she wants without having to work for it.  As soon as she gets anything she is treated as though it was handed to her, and that she did not work for it.

And now there’s that guy.  That guy that romantically complains that he is not good enough for her regardless of what he does.  He’s a nice guy, a nice sweet guy.  And she’s supposed to like him because he likes her, as though she doesn’t have rights.  He doesn’t give her what she wants, what she needs.  He is allowed to skip past girls that he doesn’t like, but as soon as she does the same she is treated like a slut.  A girl who doesn’t know what is good for her.

She gets to choose from the guy who wants to buy her, rescue her instead of work with her, tell her everything she wants to know before walking out on her the instant he gets bored.  Expect her to trust him even though he knows the men of the world.

It’s her fault that he can’t make her happy even if he tried, as though his desire made her his slave.

How can she be expected to give herself away to someone on their whim.  Someone who she fully expects to toss her away once he becomes bored of her.

“I Would Do Anything For Her”

Take a look at Peeta from The Hunger Games.  Has he become the norm of what boys have to face nowadays?

Boys are taught to watch from afar, and have a rescue instinct that makes it so that they cannot make a move unless the girl needs help, needs to be rescued.  But they dote on a specific version of a girl – one who is a fighter, one who doesn’t want to be rescued.

Girls have been treated as second class citizens for hundreds, thousands, if not millions or billions of years.  But if they are not prepared for their new generation of freedom, they have the option to surrender to a man of their choice.  They can even become a “Sugar Baby,” and get paid “for their hotness.”

The problem is not the impossibility of going back to the older ways.  It is possible for a male to walk up to a female and ask her to give herself to him.  The confidence, the masculinity of it would make him attractive.

The issue is that the boy has a strong mother, one who feminizes her son.  She is the strong woman and demands that her son follow exactly what she says, and the father goes along because she is intimidating. The son sees a strong woman who takes charge, and pushes the boys in line.

So the boy cannot take demand masculinity due to his inability to ensue insubordination, but he can only find desire for a girl who is powerful, in charge, and above him.  She would not be his equal, she would own him.

There are girls who are willing to be the girl for this guy, but not the girl that he dotes on.

Hot/Cold Relationships

Do I want her to be my girlfriend or do I want nothing to do with her?

Is she interested in me, or am I someone who is here to entertain her when she is bored?

Would she stay in the area for me? Would I stay in the area (and turn down a job) for her?

Could I, Do I want to spend the near future with her?  Do I think she is a waste of time?

Do I want to know her last name, Do I want to meet her family, her friends, where she works?

Or do I want the mystery?

Do I trust her?


Do I stay with her for the times when she is my world?  Do I just use the idea of what I want her to be to add to my fake personality, my fake character.

I know what I wanted when we first started.  It’s still the same.  I have yet to let her in on the secret.

Motion, Time, and the Bar of Mis-Balance

Time is what I regard as the greatest healer of all things.  Time will heal both physical and emotional wounds, and if used right can help you achieve your goals.  However, that is only if time is used in the right way.

Newton’s First Law of Motion states that things in motion will stay in motion.  But how does this apply to time?  Well our world doesn’t like change, and has forces that accelerate actions rather than slowing them down.  Nature does balance, but it only balances when it already has a policy in plan that catches hold and pushes the force back into place.  If nature doesn’t have a policy in place to fix your problem then you should not expect your problem to go away with time.  You have to grab hold of the problem and push it back into the desired direction.

*The body has different types of fat cells, and there are different ways to burn fat.  White fat cells, Brown fat cells, appetite, metabolism.  As you gain more weight your body gets used to gaining weight, and burning off that weight becomes harder.  The farther you have spiraled the harder it will be to push the balance back to the other direction.

*Depression / SH / Addiction :  Once you’ve hit rock bottom, then you have nothing to lose.  Whenever anything bad happens you will have feelings and thoughts in your head that someone else would not have to endure.  Unlike them you don’t have to be curious if it works, how it works, if it’s safe enough, how to do it.  It’s as if you weren’t fixed well in the first place.

Don’t despair.  If all of these works in bad ways why wouldn’t they also work in good ways as well?

*The more money you have the easier it is to make money.  Investing, security, ect.  If you can buy a house you are investing in real estate rather than paying someone else rent.  If you can pay off your car & student loans you don’t pay interest.

*Being happy releases hormones that keep stress and anxiety at bay.  You will get sick less often, and you will have to deal with less problems.

*The one bad thing that could ruin your day becomes simply a slight obsticle.  you can just deal with it, and then move on with your day.

*You will be more fun to be around.  People prefer being around happy people, and they prefer to help out happy people.  People prefer to be with happier people.

Keep this in mind when you go about your day.  Your choice is yours to make, and I am not one to judge you for how you live your life.  I would just like you to be aware that with every action you make you are making a choice concerning which direction this bar of “mis-balance” is headed in.